So, maybe I’m not a social reject or pariah to support forums? Well, at least for now (I’m kidding…I’m pretty charming and I like people)

We need to keep in mind that there is going to be friction, people we may not like, who may not like us, opinions we loathe or that chap our ass, there are jackasses any where we go in this world. The key is what are we going to do with the situation. I have a friend who says she “cherry picks” that which is good or that she can learn about from others. I like that and want to do it better. I want to get what is good out of people and leave the rest. Principles over personalities and all that jazz.

As many of you know, I recently wrote my strong opinion in a post about the healthy and unhealthy reasons to have weight loss surgery. Apparently I stepped on a bee hive by having a strong belief that didn’t mesh with other people’s opinion. The response from those who only read the partial post at the support forum (I posted partial posts there to not be associate with double posting on the net) and linked to the main blog here, were angry and overwhelming. I left that forum not because of the chat rooms or the people who befriended me but because of the viciousness toward anyone who expressed an opinion that varied from the crowd in the other areas. I reacted by leaving and not regretting it,  I only regret getting so upset internally. I’m entitled to my opinion, and certainly am at my personal blog. Disagree with me, I’m up for that because maybe you will persuade me, who knows.  I enjoy people being involved and communicating. It’s how we learn and grow. But you damn well better be polite about it or at least not attacking to anyone. If you wanna’ fight, go elsewhere.

I’ve been looking for other support forums and having some trouble finding something comfortable. I may have found one. WLSBoards.com and so far my results at the LapBandTalk.com boards have been positive, although I haven’t posted anything that could be misconstrued as inflammatory. Give me time, I’m sure that will happen soon enough. I can sometimes be the unwitting bull in the proverbial china shop with emotions of others, though I honestly try not to be, without compromising my own beliefs or emotions. I have watched and it seems supportive though not without opinions. That’s a refreshing impression. The chat was welcoming and sociable this morning (it was my first time in the chat room). It is not without flaw but they seem controlled. There are  many forums at separate site all off the parent site, WLS Boards. There is a Vertical Sleeve forums, a Sleeve Plication board, a Realize Band page and an RNY support site .